Monday, July 14, 2014

Crossing over....

Let me ask you a question:where do "experiences" come from? Now!  Some people have said, "if you do not hire me where will I get my references from?" "I need to get the job first; than I will have a reference." OK! It is something like the "chicken's egg" and you are being asked to hatch it, nurturing out that first needed "reference." It cries out: I'm a go getter, give me the "experience" so that I may reach my potential. Right! The problem with this argument is quite simple and I will not bother to reference it again because you are not so special that I should chose you over an other.  So, moving on, "experience" is all about helping others to solve a situation, offering you a learning opportunity as well as a direction in life. For example, coming out of Boston, Ma in the early 60's you networked out of your down town office. You put your ideas on the table and allowed others the opportunity to participate; this is an office of reciprocity, sharing. Each member of the group would contribute to the idea if they could; I never asked anyone to pay me for the opportunity to participate in the "experience." But then I knew how to be creative; stepping out side of the box to get on top of it so I can give it some direction, purpose. Please, I must tell the truth;  I know that in today's world you work out of your computer, as I worked out of the office. All I am saying is take the "experience" not the money because if the experience is healthy you will attain the position. Now, you can negotiate a contract or move on toward your next experience, earning "tips" along the way. Please, you can attain maturity out of the "tips" you collect.  In today's world you can be anywhere and be effective somewhere else. Today's world is all about you as a network of pieces communing on your own "self best interest;" because it is you who is ultimately responsible to protect your own affect upon life. The key to commerce is its principle. Leverage it to its highest and best usage but never spend it. Meaning, offer your services to the project; take what ever it offers you in return. Demonstrate that you can be effective in solving the situation's problem - whatever that means, like maybe you take a commission until you establish residuals. But remember, the name of the game is getting "experiences," not sell yourself short by taking a salary that pins you down until someone comes along and "pulls your pin." Leaving you to fall into the "laundry bag of life." Or! you can cross over by taking someone else's point of view so that you can demonstrate your understanding of their situation.